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I love this piece. "From that vantage point, she can see the whole room. I can see myself looking at myself drinking wine in the afternoon, but it doesn’t stop me from finishing the glass."

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It’s an honest face, a take no prisoners face, one that we’d all like across the table from us, a trusted face.

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Thank you. Very nice of you. Come for coffee.

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Fierce and yet I see a glint of humor in those eyes.

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Thank God. Thank you.

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I read “direct” and “content”.

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Utterly present...

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That sounds right. Thank you.

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My husband has kept a picture of me as the wallpaper on his phone for four years. My hair is in my face. I'm not quite smiling. It was taken on a grey day, in a nature preserve called "grey dunes", and I think it is very grey. He says it is the most natural picture he's ever taken of me. It is how he sees me, all the time. It took me a long time to figure out that he sees me as the one who brings color to the greys.

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Lovely, you bring color to the grays.

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Like Joyce said, ‘present’, and warm too. I’d hang this picture-and we’ve never met!

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That's so nice of you to say. Thank you.

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great picture and love the musings, when I was healing from a trauma bond, I put pictures up to get reacquainted with myself

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What a good idea. Has it helped? I love that you did that to help heal. Damn. How did you decide which ones to look at?

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It has helped me to remember who I was and who I want to be. I chose pictures that made me feel good about myself. but didn't ignore the ones that I looked like hell. Those made me look at myself honestly.

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Such an interesting thing to do to heal yourself. Who you were, who you want to be. Seems such a good idea.

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Can I be honest with you? I see a sultry beautiful woman. Intense yes but provocatively so. Perhaps he had the same vision? Afternoon wine can be divine at times.

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Thank you. Afternoon wine is a big help. I love what you said. But sultry? That was a loong time ago. But I'll take it, with thanks, Kathy.

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I love this picture of you. I didn’t realize that Chuck had taken it. You do look intense, but it’s the same look you often have just before you ask an insightful question that inspires one to write even better in hopes of addressing the answer to that inspired probing. She does want you to be your best self. She wants us all to be our best. I love you Abby.

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I love you too, Susan. And thank you.

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She has opinions. And she has options. Like wine in the afternoon. Here’s lookin at you, Abby ❤️

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Thanks, Kate. Here's lookin' at you, too.

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Love your posts. They speak honestly to our years. Sturges

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And I loved your remembrance of Pam. A real tribute, and so many memories.

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Fierce? Perhaps. Strong and survived? Definitely. Love the pic!

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Thank you. Survived, definitely. So far, anyway.

Thank you.

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I don’t see severity. I see intense, unwavering focus on what’s in front of you. I think maybe Chuck saw this too, not judgment but your desire to reach the core of things. It’s a great portrait.

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Yeah. More in my face than I've ever seen caught. Oh, Chuck.

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“Come here often?” she asks after a swallow of wine.

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hahahahahaa!

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To me that wonderful face says “there’s a lot going on in here, you have no idea.” We will take the scraps you trot out for public consumption. Keep em coming.

🙏💜

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You are such a darling to say that, thank you.

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Infomative

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oh dear. something I don't know?

thank you.

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You're welcome always God bless you and your family forever

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