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Sarah Davis's avatar

Thank you both. I live in Minneapolis, and I have been unable to write since all of this happened. I have told myself I have been busy, busy helping, busy crying, busy trying to not let my children know how afraid I am, busy being a person in an animal body that thinks it needs to run, but I think really I've been just so so pressed down by it all that the words have fallen flat. I needed this gentle reminder of how one can begin, that the words will matter even if they just serve to remove this heaviness from my chest. I live five minutes from where they shot Renee, I am ten minutes from where they shot Alex, and I am thirty seconds from a neighbor in every direction who will break your heart with their courage and kindness. Sending warm gratitude, love, and appreciation for this email this morning from Minnesota.

Abigail Thomas's avatar

Oh Sarah, this must be terribly agonizingly hard for you. Yes, i lived in Saint paul, years ago. But these are you people, you own neighbors, people you know and in normal times, although normal times almost seem buried by this regime. I am so sorry for what you go through every single day. Start maybe with some familiar routine, see when it hits you, and just keep writing. Or maybe remember a time a while ago when you ran into a friend, or a neighbor and had an easy exchange, or a nod in passing and then see and write what has changed utterly. I want very much to read how you approach this. And thank you for reading.

Sarah Davis's avatar

Thank you Abigail, this means so much. I appreciate all the thoughtfulness and ideas on how to approach. And yes, just write. That's always the way isn't it. I didn't know you lived in St. Paul. It's a gem of a city our kids go to school there now. Sending love and gratitude for you. P.S. I put chili crisp on my eggs too, it's the best.

Gari Gold Richardson's avatar

What exactly is chili crisp? My mouth is watering and I’m not sure for what.

Darien Gee's avatar

Sending hugs and love from Hawaii, Sarah. You are not alone, we are all there with you. 💕

Sarah Davis's avatar

Thank you Darien, that means so much right now. I appreciate you.

Darien Gee's avatar

Big hugs, Sarah.

Tina Rogers's avatar

In the UK I watch the news and horrendous videos of these shootings and feel sick. I don't feel like I'm all the way over here. I feel like I'm with you all, right there. I don't know what else to say but on some deep level you're not alone.

Abigail Thomas's avatar

Thank you, Tina. That is good to know.

Sarah Davis's avatar

And that is the silver lining in all of this, we have learned here in Minneapolis, that when people come together (in the multitude of ways available to them - and everyone’s capacity is different and that is just as it should be) and remind each other that they are not alone, that we DO have community, when people in the UK and elsewhere feel connected, something powerful can happen. And I will say, we have learned here that meeting up in real life, having a potluck, eating together and talking it all through - that’s a whole other level. If I can offer anything right now - never underestimate the power of potluck. XOXO

Abigail Thomas's avatar

Never underestimate the value of a potluck. Thank you. I absolutely love that.

Janet Boudreau's avatar

Sending prayers as everyone from everywhere is for all of Minnesotans as this horrific battle goes on. Let the end be in sight soon.

Abigail Thomas's avatar

Yes, please. Please. let it end the right way.

Debbie Liu's avatar

Sarah, when I read you were in Minneapolis.... no words. I'm all the way over in Australia and this year started so heavily. From so far away the events in your town have affected us all. I went to your substack and read a bit, and commented. I really enjoyed your work, for what its worth. Stay strong. The world is with Minneapolis.

Sarah Davis's avatar

Thank you Debbie! That means so much! I hope today feels a little less heavy for you. Sending you warmth and gratitude. Australia is one of my favorite places - give her my love.

Debbie Liu's avatar

I just threw out your kisses to the seaside, just a block away from where i live. so important to get out in nature and remind ourselves there is a beautiful world out there.

Linda Thompson's avatar

This is such a kind, generous gift to writers in times we never thought possible not so long ago. Thank you.

Abigail Thomas's avatar

We find ourselves unable to metabolize what is happening right under our noses. It is becoming all too familiar now. GOT TO CHANGE!

Darien Gee's avatar

Thank you, Linda. 💕

Mary Anne & Richard Erickson's avatar

Your writing brings me to tears. Tears that need to be shed and shared. How to continue doing the things we love in life when such unhinged madness is all around us? The feeling of utter helplessness along with the desire to lead a life we dream about. Thank you both for sharing this place of not knowing- and continuing on. 🙏 with gratitude

Abigail Thomas's avatar

Hard to keep anything up, but writing is important . Thank you for this reply. Knoing and not knowing. There's a start for you. And thank you very much.

Darien Gee's avatar

Thank you, Mary Anne and Richard. Sending hugs. 💕

Sage Taylor Kingsley's avatar

Thank you both for this excellent piece—a generous gift. 🎁 I am happily now subscribed to both of you as a result, I restacked this, and I am greatly enjoying diving down both of your writerly rabbit holes!

Abigail Thomas's avatar

I am becoming very curious about rabbit holes. I want to go down a real one. Maybe on google until the snow goes away. And thank you very much for your kind words.

Darien Gee's avatar

Thank you, Sage! 💕 We appreciate the kind words!

Susan OBrien's avatar

Stunning. Informative. Inspiring. Intimidating. Thank you.

Darien Gee's avatar

You're very welcome, Susan. 💕

Abigail Thomas's avatar

Oh god, Susan. I hope some part of this will be of use to those of us who find writing very daunting.

Brenda Gaughan's avatar

What a treasure out of the blue! Thank you both so much. Help just at the right time. Blessings to both of you for you are blessings to us.

Darien Gee's avatar

We feel the same about everyone here, including you. Thank you, Brenda. 💕

Abigail Thomas's avatar

Thank you, Brenda. We hope to be of use.

Jane Trombley's avatar

Thank you. A service and a gift.

Abigail Thomas's avatar

So kind a thing to say, thank you for both of us. i hope it will be of use.

Nancy G. Shapiro's avatar

Your wholehearted partnering in "How to Write During Difficult Times" is a vitally needed reminder of our 'writerly service', as Jane Trombley shares below. I've been standing at the mouth of the cave of a personal hibernation...you two have pushed me out into the light, and I am forever grateful.

Abigail Thomas's avatar

That's the best thing we could hear, thank you very much, Nancy.

Darien Gee's avatar

Thank you for your kind words, Nancy. It means a lot to us!

Georgia Patrick's avatar

What a great writer's prompt PDF on such a winter's day. It was more than a gift. It feels like my personal pass into the circle of the cool kids who write well. Darien Gee--another cool kid storyteller.

What always resonates in your writing, Abigail, is the non-negotiable stance. It's not that writing is a choice because it is the air that I need all the time, and I try to not overthink it. Your "How to Write" offers a change-up for the moment, to try this instead of whatever you thought you might finish writing today. It's permission to be naughty and run down that rabbit hole this Monday because there might be a tea party in there.

Darien Gee's avatar

Thanks for so many kind words, Georgia. Follow those squirrels and rabbits, wherever they may lead! You can trust that. Big hugs.

Abigail Thomas's avatar

Thank you, Georgia. There might bemore than a tea party, I hope. But tea would be nice on a wcold wontry dat. Thank you again, for your very kind words.

Nancy Jainchill's avatar

Thank you! And I did write, today's Armchair Journalist, about these horrible times.

Darien Gee's avatar

You're welcome, Nancy. Keep reaching for the words. 💕

Abigail Thomas's avatar

Thanks, Nancy. So glad you wrote today.

Dawn Smith's avatar

Thanks to the two of you, writers whose work I admire and respect, a reminder that we need to keep moving forward, keep our words in the world.

Abigail Thomas's avatar

Thank you, Dawn. And yes, we do, we do.

Darien Gee's avatar

Thank you, Dawn. 💕

Mira Dessy's avatar

Thank you for this. I deeply appreciate that in the middle of the chaos of what's going on you both find it in your hearts to help others.

Abigail Thomas's avatar

Mira, thank you very much from both of us. To your heart from ours.

Darien Gee's avatar

Thank you, Mira. 💕 We appreciate you, too.

Sage Taylor Kingsley's avatar

Excellent piece! Restacked!

Abigail Thomas's avatar

Thank you from both of us.

Sage Taylor Kingsley's avatar

You are both awesome!👏

Abigail Thomas's avatar

Thank you for saying such a nice thing.

Sage Taylor Kingsley's avatar

That’s what I’m here for. 😃

Deborah Sosin's avatar

Just beautiful, Abby and Darien. Thank you again for opening your hearts and for creating this special gift. Stay safe and warm and hopeful.

Darien Gee's avatar

You're very welcome, Deborah. And yes on staying safe, warm and hopeful! 💕

Abigail Thomas's avatar

Thank you, Deborah, the same wishes for you. So far we are both warm. Thesnow is over the steps on my porch, but we are still warm in Wooodstock. Waiting on the plow.

John Hammond's avatar

I want to thank you for your words to help us keep thinking and writing in impossible times. Writing has become important to me over the past few years, and it seems even more true today. Your writing is always a gift, especially now.

Abigail Thomas's avatar

So is yours, John. I return to the music often. I imagine an evening if old songs sung as other kinds of the national anthem. We are such a creative country, and I love the old rock&roll, the old country music, the old protest songs, and god knows, Strange Fruit, all sung as a kind of different protest. Chuck Berry, who went through hell, and wrote his music anyway. Elvis, Leon Russell, And so many others i can't list them all right now.Hundreds and hundreds of the music made in this country, influenced by history, influencing history.My god, I amost forgot Bon Dykan. And Bruce, and, and and...

John Hammond's avatar

Yes music keeps me going, all my life. I’m very lucky to get to play music with my friends. Music about love, honesty, laughter, hope.

Darien Gee's avatar

You're very welcome, John. 💕

Michal Nortness's avatar

Thank you both, soooo much. I feel like I've been in the middle of one of the trauma responses - FREEZE, and nothing I have gone to has helped. So kind. So generous. SO grateful. ❤️

Darien Gee's avatar

You're very welcome, Michal. Trauma response is exactly it. It was our honor to work together to see what might be helpful for others in the same boat. 💕

Michal Nortness's avatar

Thanks to you too, Darien. I think we're a nation of ptsd sufferers. I am grateful that you and Abigail thought of it. ❤️

Abigail Thomas's avatar

Thank you so much, Michal. I hope it will be of use.

Michal Nortness's avatar

so do I. In the meantime, I'm grateful for the thought itself. :)