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Linda Caroll's avatar

**I had plenty of stories from my own life. I could pick one, break two or three of its bones, keep the feelings I remembered, but hang them on a different skeleton**

oh my gosh, that's a gorgeous sentence :)

Abigail Thomas's avatar

Thank you. What a lovely thing to say.

Sue Sutherland-Wood's avatar

"And the paint was now dry on the past."

Brilliant, this is.

Also, I thoroughly enjoyed the seminar yesterday with Darien and yourself and felt like I'd given a huge treat to myself. Please keep doing what you do and hope you are feeling stronger each day xo

Abigail Thomas's avatar

Thank you very much, Sue. And yes, yesterday was a treat for all f us, I think. I loved it too.

Sue Sutherland-Wood's avatar

And what do I dance to? Punk rock, klezmer or bad seventies. It matters not, to me or my slightly concerned dog lol

Abigail Thomas's avatar

There was no bad music in the seventies!

Sue Sutherland-Wood's avatar

Ha! You are right!!

Jaime Glasser DVM MS's avatar

Haha! A woman with my own illogical far-ranging taste from punk rock to Klezmer! I share your tastes and experience …except my dogs are not slightly concerned, they have accepted the fact I am that “naughty woman” and nuts, and just shake their heads and roll their eyes, and dance with me.

Abigail Thomas's avatar

Dogs don't complain much. You have very good dogs. Mine haven't learned to dance yet. But I love them anyway.

Karin C's avatar

‘Tell it truthfully, and we find clarity. Clarity is comfort.’

I love this! Honesty in writing can feel so vulnerable at times and yet that’s what helps build a connection to readers. They may see themselves in our words and find them relatable.

Your words feel like relief to me. I don’t have to be an expert or have it all figured out. That note you saw on the bus is the message I needed to hear. Thank you!

Abigail Thomas's avatar

Oh, you made me very happy. Thank you!

Abigail Thomas's avatar

And the more vulnerable you allow yourself to be, the stronger you becomen

Susan OBrien's avatar

And only a sensual 83-year-old would rise to the bait of a naughty 84-year-old playmate.

Abigail Thomas's avatar

Hahahahaha

Thank you.

Susan OBrien's avatar

Now you’ve done it, Abigail. I am ruined for (at least) today. That kitchen dancing question opens the playlist of my secret, arm-waving, booty-shaking, absolutely inappropriate and aesthetically unacceptable addiction to Private Dancing. You are a delightfully naughty friend. Long may you wave.

Abigail Thomas's avatar

And long may you dance crazily in your kitchen, Susan. Thank you

R burr's avatar

Abigail,

I am 48, and I have wanted to write my whole life. It’s always been there, waiting quietly in the corner while I tended to everything else. I’ve begun with poetry; it feels safer somehow, a place to start. Reading your story of how you came to the page has been profoundly inspiring for me. I only discovered your work this summer, and already it has changed my life. Thank you.

Abigail Thomas's avatar

Thank you very much. I love what you said, a writer couldn't ask for a better reason to keep writing, thank you again.

Brenda Gaughan's avatar

Love. I’m still buzzing from yesterday’s workshop with you and Darien, and now this! Thank you!

Abigail Thomas's avatar

I buzzed until one-thirty in the morning, dogs got up at five. No longer buzzing, but yesterday was really great, I loved it too. Thank you.

Jaime Glasser DVM MS's avatar

Me too.Buzzing is a great way to explain it.🙏🏽❤️

Brenda's avatar

Abigail, you keep my hope alive when I think I have nothing to write about. Thank you.

P.S. I'm 72. There's still time!

Abigail Thomas's avatar

And there;s is never nothing to write about. Write about that. Start there.

GINNY ROWAN's avatar

I wasn’t sure which book to give to my friend first but now I think I will give her safekeeping. I had her reading some of your sub stacks and she said I wanna be like her. That’s pretty much what everyone says when I recommend your sub stack by the way. I hope there was buttercream frosting on that birthday cake. And I hope they double the recipe cause that’s the only way to do it.

Abigail Thomas's avatar

I'm going to write about BigMom's icing, inspired by everyone. It was a great day, yesterday! I hope your friend will like Safekeeping, and thank you, Mira, for your brownie everythings. Best ever!

Mary Varner Hutto's avatar

My library is starting some writers workshops that I plan to attend. I have written poetry since age 6 and have started writing more essays and completed a play script. I’m a 69 year old that would love to get something published. I never had children and I fear my relatives will toss it all after I’m gone even though I mostly write for myself.

Abigail Thomas's avatar

That's how I write, too. The only way to get it all down. I'm glad you are writing.

Abigail Thomas's avatar

Do you still have the poems you wrote when you were six? I would love to read them.

Sarah Tueting's avatar

So cheesy and so old school, “it’s a great day to be alive”; though I don’t have a beard or the capability of growing one, it makes me smile. Thank you for yesterday it was awesome.

Abigail Thomas's avatar

It really was, thank you!

Amy Brown's avatar

Abigail, how did you know I so needed to read this today! I too operate from the Beginner’s mind when it comes to writing and life (which so think for you & me is one and the same). Writing keeps me sane too. And as you did with Safekeeping I reveal myself to myself as I write. Loved this especially: “I had plenty of stories from my own life. I could pick one, break two or three of its bones, keep the feelings I remembered, but hang them on a different skeleton.”

Morgan Four Dogs and a Baby's avatar

Abby- one of the reasons your work has resonated with me for so long is that you’re honest - not just about life but about your writing process. I always felt stupid because I didn’t know what a three act anything was or a denounement which I can’t spell or say . So thank you for that. I learned to trust myself.

Also yesterday was great! Inspiring! Gave me great ideas and also turned me back to my collection I’m working on.

And dance- Earth Wind and Fire!

Mira Dessy's avatar

So much to love about this!! Starting with the fact that you changed it and shared it again. Thank you for permission to do that.

And THIS --> I’m eighty-four now, and I am still a beginner every time I sit down to write. I have no idea what I’m doing.

My happiest kitchen dancing moment. As a pre-teen our youngest daughter was incredibly embarrassed to have something so mundane as a mother, much less one who liked to dance. When she was 21 she came up to me in the kitchen one day and asked me to dance with her. I don't remember the song but I still remember the dance.

Linda Thompson's avatar

Your words are like permission - permission to write the good, the bad, and even the ugly. Thank you.

Abigail Thomas's avatar

Only way to do it. Thank you.

Tammy Aston's avatar

I started my memoir in a memoir class that used Bill’s book Writing Life Stories and it really helped me with the craft of writing.